*Four Complete Women*
🌸 Note 8⃣
Khadija bint Khuwaylid
(رضي الله عنها)
wife of the Prophet (ﷺ)
(خديجة بنت خويلد رضي الله عنها)
🌴 Khadija (ra) was the wife to the best of mankind and in the case of Khadija (ra) you have a complete woman married to the most complete of men, subhan Alalh. Allah (swt) gave us an example of everything in order to not be narrow-minded, especially regarding marriage.
🌴Khadija (ra) was married twice before the Prophet (ﷺ) and both husbands died; she also had children from them. Nowadays, if someone sees a lady married twice and both husbands died, they’ll think she’s cursed, subhan Allah.❗
🌴 After these two marriages, Khadija (ra) decided to focus on her business. She came from a noble family, she had a say in matters, and she was known to be a businesswoman. She was advised to hire the Prophet Mohammed (ﷺ) because he is the most trustworthy. She was not interested in marriage at the time, but after seeing Mohammed (ﷺ) she admired him and told her friend that she was interested in marrying him. *She was forty years old and the Prophet Mohammed (ﷺ) was 25 years and Allah (swt) willed for them to be married*. Their marriage was smooth and all of the children of the Prophet (ﷺ) were from her, except Ibrahim who was from Mariyah.
🌴 Though she was older than him, she was sufficient for him, and he didn’t go and marry others, and this clears the misconception because he could have married a younger women.
🌴 Allah (swt) put the love of being alone in the Prophet (ﷺ). Imagine if your husband would tell you he wants to be alone for some time, what would you think❓ You would think negatively and think he’s getting married again, or you go into thinking really far. But look at Khadija (ra), she didn’t object and she also provided him with food. At the age of forty, the Prophet (ﷺ) would go to Cave Haraa (غار حراء). It was a very high place and he would go there to contemplate the Creator and the creation, Subhan Allah
🌴 Khadija (ra) supported her husband and didn’t ask, ‘who are you with, how long, etc’ she respected him and obeyed him. This is a complete women. A wife should keep the goodness of her husband active in her mind. Just because the Prophet (ﷺ) wanted to be alone at the age of forty after all this time; she didn’t suspect him. If your husband changes, don’t suspect because the *shaitan is very happy to separate between husband and wife*.
(عَنْ جَابِرٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ” إِنَّ إِبْلِيسَ يَضَعُ عَرْشَهُ عَلَى الْمَاءِ ثُمَّ يَبْعَثُ سَرَايَاهُ فَأَدْنَاهُمْ مِنْهُ مَنْزِلَةً أَعْظَمُهُمْ فِتْنَةً يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ فَعَلْتُ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَيَقُولُ مَا صَنَعْتَ شَيْئًا قَالَ ثُمَّ يَجِيءُ أَحَدُهُمْ فَيَقُولُ مَا تَرَكْتُهُ حَتَّى فَرَّقْتُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِهِ – قَالَ – فَيُدْنِيهِ مِنْهُ وَيَقُولُ نِعْمَ أَنْتَ ” . قَالَ الأَعْمَشُ أُرَاهُ قَالَ ” فَيَلْتَزِمُهُ)
🍂 (Jabir reported that Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said:
_Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension) ; the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: “I did so and so.” And he says: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them comes and says: “I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife.” The Satan goes near him and says: “You have done well.” A’mash said: He then embraces him.)_
🔸Sahih Muslim 2813
🌴 Don’t give a chance to the shaitan to whisper to you. The shaitan always wants to put doubts about your husband, that’s why you need to have your memory active of your husband’s goodness.
🌴 The Prophet (ﷺ) would go for a few days, return, and go back again. So he started to spend more of his time in isolation, but she never questioned.